The following comment was posted on one of the online articles about gender relations in the US:
“US women will hate me, but I’ll say it. It’s not feminism that is the problem – it’s coz women in the US took it too far. I’m from Singapore. Contrary to what they’ll have you believe, asian women aren’t all sluts nor any easy lay. I have a Singaporean partner with whom I have a wonderful, fulfilling relationship with despite having a degree and, also, drawing a decent income. And the reason is this. He enjoys my company and I love him for that. He still wants to be a man – a provider and protector – and I wouldn’t trade that for the world. He’s proud that I respect him and appreciate his efforts and I love him all the more for that. He shows his appreciation that I still groom for him and I respect him all the more. I also enjoy decent conversations with caucasian expat men because we agree to disagree like adults. Chivalry and respect for women are still alive. If more women in the US can understand this, they wouldn’t need to worry about foreign women. I don’t worry about my partner leaving me for a foreign broad because, since our relationship is, on the whole, great, I don’t need to worry about him looking elsewhere.”
I believe this is a very important message for the women in the US that should encourage those who accuse guys of having an Asian fetish or those who judge men for going to South Asia or Latin Countries in search of easy sex to re-evaluate their approach to the whole issue. Instead of blaming men for what they do, it would be much more useful to ask why they are doing this – why are so many men willing to go so far to meet women and what is it that they can’t find back home in the US?
Calling Asian women subservient and submissive is as untrue as it is pointless. Plenty for them are educated and can stand up for themselves as good as anyone else. On the other hand – learning a thing or two from non-white women about the gender dynamics in a relationship that work can be very helpful to many Western women in re-evaluating their behavior with the men they meet and date. So many Western women have been inspired by the media and the movies to be powerful and domineering, but what is the price that women pay for being that way – being perpetually single and lonely? Having unfulfilling / short lived sex based relationships? And not really experiencing what love and what being loved means?
The girl who wrote the comment above is a bit naive thinking that just because everything is great in her relationship, this means that her partner cannot possibly cheat on her, although I certainly wish her the best (men obviously cheat on the women they love and find attractive), but that’s besides the point. The girl who wrote the comment above doesn’t think that traditional female tasks are beneath her and her guy appreciates that. That’s a true sign of confidence on her part. She doesn’t need to prove to anyone that she is a man because she knows that she isn’t. She respects our fundamental biological differences, and that’s one valuable lesson so many Western women should learn and keep in mind. And her advice about appreciating feminism but not taking it too far is critical to fixing many of gender issues we deal with today in relationships and at work.
asian women + white men are not more numerous, not weirder than the others :
– asian women + black men
– asian men + white women
– asian men + black women
– white men + black women
– white men + white women
– etc…
Thare are a lot of ugly people, plenty of psychopathes, but 98 % of them are not eurasians, and most of them are not white men who live with an asian woman.
If western women are so brainwashed by feminism why are divorce rates in Singapore the same as in the western world? We all know that Singaporean women have an inferiority complex when it comes to western men – come on we all know that you act brash and aggressive around local men but then pretend to be subservient and live up to the stereotype of Asian women around western men. Get real; you’re not fooling anyone.
Divorce is one but not the only measure of quality of men, women or their relationships. A lot of other social, economic and cultural factors come into play.
@Mickey with respect I don’t think you understood my point. I’m not making any statement about the merits or problems with feminism; I’m saying that the author is very fake because Singaporean women are no different to women from western countries. Singapore is first world Asia as their dear leader LKY liked to remind us. Singapore has a woman’s charter that engrains women’s rights. What women from DEVELOPED Asia such as Hong Kong or Singapore like to do is PRETEND to be subservient when in fact the reality is that they are no different to western women just more manipulative as reflected by divorce rates which are the same in Singapore and the financial results of which are similar to western countries.
@practicalh – dear please do tell, what other economic social and cultural factors are you referring to and how do these matter if the result is that the divorce rate in Singapore is the same as in western countries? Surely it must mean that PRETENDING to be subservient doesn’t work in the long run!!
First, I don’t know much about Singapore. I maybe met one or two women from there, and I have never been there, let along living there. However, with regard to any society – economics and religion have a major effect on divorce rates, as well as .. MEN. It takes two to tango. You might be very well correct about many of the Singapore women’s hypocrisy. I simply wouldn’t know. However, again – divorce rate is just one measure. That alone cannot reliable tell a whole story about (all) women in a particular society. Things just aren’t as simple as that.
The title of the article you have written is “A message to US women from a young female from Singapore” yet you say you do not know much about Singapore. Please explain then how you are qualified to write this article?
The commend discussing Singapore is posted by a reader. I am the author of this site. I posted the comment and wrote a response to it in the article above.
…and the title of your response specifically refers to Singapore. Your response is far too general and unspecific. Having lived around the world and in Asia for 5+ years, I can confirm that there is a difference between DEVELOPED Asia and DEVELOPING Asia. It would be more accurate to draw a distinction between developed countries and developing countries rather than between western and Asian.
Western women aren’t brainwashed by feminism, you ask? If that’s the case, how is it that:
1) The U.S. Court system is set up to routinely destroy husbands and fathers when it comes to divorce and child custody;
2) Being a male student on college campuses is all but criminalized; and
3) A guy can be ACCUSED of committing an ALLEGED rape, and is left with a PRESUMPTION of GUILT, and all but NO RIGHT OF DUE PROCESS!!! Even if he didn’t do it, he did it.
This is what the alleged fight for “equality” has now brought us: the criminalization of men.
THANK YOU MAN HATING FEMINAZIS!!!
This is so true. There’re many women in the US who’re so full of hatred at the world – men, thin women, men, women who’re girly, men, women who acknowledge that men and women have their own gender roles, men, men, men, etc.
They’re combative and unpleasant and all it takes is a harmless comment to trigger their malice, spite and animosity.
I live in Asia and this is absolutely true. I love the women here, they understand what drives men – sex primarily, and an appreciation of masculinity overall. In return I treat these wonderful ladies with generosity, kindness and the respect they truly deserve. US women are utterly deluded by the corruption of modern feminism.
You nailed it!!!
Just crossing all fingers and toes that I won’t be flamed for this 😛
I think the thing is these dodos are the ones who are hogging up all the media time, and that can really make us think that is the “current state of US”.
The scary thing about the US is that a LOT more people there have access to the standard propaganda machine ( aka the Television ) when compared to a third world country full of poverty etc.. And that seems like a really dangerous thing.
Also most of the gender studies dodos etc.. graduate with college courses that teach things about “patriarchy” to them – which basically go along the lines that men have oppressed women for centuries, until their fat sisters came along to rescue them. So there is that too.
Happiness breeds happiness. Courtesy breeds courtesy. Smiles breed smiles. Warmth breeds warmth. The same goes for contempt, scorn and hatred.
There’re always exceptions. Despite being polite, I do encounter hopelessly bitter and spiteful people. Thankfully, these are rare and, if our lives are full, such momentary unpleasant moments don’t get to us anyway. We don’t need to waste time on people who get their kick out of being nasty to others.
It’s such a waste of time engaging in wars and battles of the sexes. So much more pleasant when men and women get along…
Mhm.. agreed.
Just that the problem is the media is making a business out of turning these exceptions into mainstream in a lot of places, and that’s where I see the real problem.
But at the same time, Amen to the “We don’t need to waste time on people who get their kick out of being nasty to others.”
Wait ’till the man-hating feminazis get a load of this!!!
I can’t wait for a little bit of hate that I usually get when I write something like this.
True, but when the feminazi hate comes, I’ll be standing shoulder to shoulder with you on the front lines.