I am a big fan of relationship expert Renee Wade (thefemininewoman.com). Unlike so many others jezebel-alikes, she can really understand what men want from and in a woman and what men wish to avoid and she gives candid insight into how a woman can make herself more attractive to the opposite sex and find the kind of relationship she is looking for. In one of her articles, Renee makes a very important observation that all single women, especially the ones residing in large cities, should read very carefully, because it is so true:
“Women have been habitually masculinized by the modern society.
Many women today live a very masculine life. They take on a masculine job, speak in a masculine tone of voice and act and hold themselves as if they are competing with other men.
There’s nothing wrong with this by the way, it’s our birthright to achieve the results we want; just as good and better results than me are.
However… being in the masculine energy will instantly kill the attraction that most men will feel for you. Why? Because they’ll feel like you’re just like another “guy” friend and there would simply be no polarity.
For attraction to occur between a man and a woman, there has to be the masculine-feminine polarity. And without it, you can still be great friends…but achieving attraction…is impossible.
So most of us women (who have learnt to get a good paying job, secure that career…etc) need to come back to our feminine core and spirit. It’s that femininity that sometimes we have lost touch with… that will be most attractive to men.
This is not to say we need to give up our career, it just means that you can’t always live in your masculine mode all the time. You have to achieve a balance between femininity and getting results in your career/business.”
Although polarity is not a new concept, the critical importance of femininity and the romantic/sexual tension it creates with the masculine seems to be often overlooked or underestimated these days. After all, what makes a woman attractive and desirable to men are the differences, and not the similarities, between her and the male kind.
There is one kind of men out there who like manly women – these are the submissive guys aka “betas”. The rest will do what they can to stay away from a woman who is trying in so many ways to prove to the world and to herself that he penis is just as long as that of any guy out there.
It has to be a balance; sexual polarity
A feminine woman = masculine man OR masculine woman = feminine man
So the ultimate goal of a woman is to attract a man? Come on now.
Women’s ultimate goals are not discussed at all in this article or any article on this site.
You’re talking about “attraction killers in a woman”, as if it’s something a chick has to sweat about. The thing is literally filed under “attracting and meeting men”. If a woman is trying to “attract and meet” a man, that is what is called a GOAL.
Its only a goal if she makes it a goal. Those are suggestions for anyone to whom self improvement and improving dating life is important.
Dude, really? Aren’t you too much of a high falootin writer/dating expert/whatever in Christ’s Crispies you say you are to LITERALLY reply to my every comment within 15 minutes? Oh wait, my comments are the only one here besides the one downstairs of me saying this article isn’t fair to women…I say it’s not fair to ANYONE. Checked out your stuff. You seem like another one of those “experts” that are trying to sell books to lonely folks. LOL you’re gonna have to delete my comments, ya know. Bad for marketing. Truth doesn’t make for a good sale.
You are funny. When there is nothing constructive to say let’s insult the source. FYI I am just killing time waiting for a flight. I didn’t realize that paying attention to comments is an insult. I have no intention of deleting comments, but since I try to keep this site useful rather than full of cheap shots and insults, like so many other sites are, I must block you to avoid any further pointless rhetoric.
This is a love & relationship advice site. So…. makes sense, no? Men have the same thing on websites dedicated to teaching them how to attract women.
No, but in relationships it is the goal. Just like at school the ultimate goal is to get grades; at work the ultimate goal is to do good and important work and get promoted, etc…
I think this article is so unfair to women.
It may sound offensive to some, but men do want to be manly, and most, not all, crave a feminine woman. If you wish to be the woman with masculine traits, there are still men out there for you. But I think it will be a bit harder to find them.
Well said. The truth can be hard to hear at times to some, but it doesn’t make it any less valid.
There are plenty of men with more feminine energy.