Suppose you want to approach and meet a woman or perhaps you would like to ask out a woman who you already know. What frame of mind should you have in order to make a move with the right energy, confidence, and the right attitude and eliminate that debilitating fear or anxiety that most of us guys have in these types of situations?
The answer to this questions is rather simple but very important to keep in mind when it’s time for you take action and make a move: you must feel and truly believe that you are giving her a compliment when you approach her and start a conversation with her.
It should not be very hard for you to train yourself to believe this because it is actually true – you are complimenting a woman by your attention. Approaching a woman is indeed one of the biggest compliment. When you try to strike up a conversation with meet a woman or when you are asking her out, you are basically saying: “I find you attractive and/or interesting. I would like to spend more time with you and get to know you better.” – Those are very nice things to tell a woman, and a woman who is worthy of your attention should take it as a compliment regardless of whether she is interested in going out with you and getting to know you or not.
Many guys feel that they are doing something wrong when they are looking at a woman or when they are thinking about approaching her and starting a conversation with her. But the only reason they feel that is because they heard from a small number of confused, immature or overly feminist or frigid women that approaching and “hitting” on girls is almost like some kind of crime, when in fact there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, if you do it the right way – with both, the right amount of respect and confidence. Many women, even the ones who are not so attractive are hit on by guys all the time, but they are rarely, if ever, approached by normal guys the right way, so there is no way that those women are tired by being approached by guys who are neither drunk nor thuggish looking.
So, the next time you are about to make a move, feel good and be proud of what you are doing because what some might call a “pick-up” is actually a compliment, not to mention that fact that you are showing a respectable amount of guts when doing that.