It is not unlikely that the next woman you meet and like is on the “rebound” – she just recently broke with someone or was dumped by someone, or she has just gone through a bad divorce, or she was otherwise disappointed in a guy who she really liked or even loved and hoped to have a relationship with. As a slang the term “rebound” means emotionally fragile, possibly desperate, “easy”, and is looking for comfort – someone who would fill out the void and sadness, created by that painful break up. This kind of woman is an easy “target” for a guy who is in search of sexual encounters, or quick passionate affairs with women who desperately need affection, attention and validation from any guy. Of course, a man can be on the rebound too after losing his beloved, but the term usually refers to women.
But if you happened to be interested in a woman who is on the rebound, and you are interested in more than just having sex with her, it’s worth knowing how to approach that kind of woman in a way that would help you develop a more meaningful romantic connection with her. There are a two simple things you can and should do to help your interaction with a woman who seems to be on a “rebound”:
1. Avoid talking about that hurtful dating experience that caused her to be on a rebound in the first place.
While you might be tempted to be her therapist and help her through her issues, such therapy sessions are rarely, if ever, conductive to creating attraction between the two of you. You might think that she appreciates your efforts to cheer her up, in reality you will be getting into a friend zone quicker than you can imagine. The best way to make a woman forget about her painful past and feel better is stay off that subject and focus and talk about completely different things that have nothing to do with whatever upset her in the recent dating life.
2. Do not be as aggressive with the girl who is on a rebound as you might normally be with others.
Be more patient and understanding with her. Give her a little more time and allow her to feel comfortable near you and to get over that other guy a little more before she becomes intimately involved with you. If you rush things and take advantage of the girl’s vulnerable emotional state, she might sleep with you sooner, but she is also likely to disappear on you right after, feeling both confused about her feelings toward you vs that other guy, and embarrassed that she had sex with you for the wrong reasons – not because she liked you or has developed a deeper interest and connection with you, but because she tried to forget about that other guy through having sex with someone else, whoever that is. She might also resent you for knowing taking advantage of her while knowing that she wasn’t in the right mindset to be intimate.
It hurts to be on a rebound, but it is equally unpleasant being that guy, who the woman is rebounding on, so to speak, if you really like her, and she disappears on you in a way that many guys disappear on women after sleeping with them.
The above simple tips should help you minimize the chances of being mislead by a woman’s behavior, if she is on a rebound, and if you happened to like her and be interested in getting to know her and dating her.
