Are You a Drama Queen?

Let’s Face It – We All Know a Drama Queen

Drama queens are everywhere and they come in box sexes. A drama queen is that someone who won’t stop talking about how difficult his/her life is and how many hardships he has. They usually start a conversation with how much they can’t stand their boss and their co-workers, or how they keep fighting with their family member. Do you know someone who constantly tells you about their tremendous financial challenges, and debt that they can’t keep up with? Or do they force you to listen all about their turbulent dating life? If so, you also know how annoying it is listening to the drama queen. He/she mistakenly thinks that discussing his challenges out loud with as many people as possible makes him look like some kind of hero. But nothing is further from truth.  Most of us are annoyed by drama queens who tell us about how busy they are and how difficult their lives are, and how they don’t have time for anything or anyone. Victim mentality is just not flattering to anyone.

Going Out with a Drama Queen is a Draining Experience

Consider someone you started dating recently who will hang on the phone with you for half an hour, telling you how she doesn’t have time to meet with you because of how busy she is and how many issues she has to deal with. It is the same girl who would be sitting across the table from you at a coffee shop or a restaurant, talking louder than anyone else about her problems or about her accomplishments.  You will be sitting there and patiently listening. It is anything but fun to you but you are trying to be understanding. Your problems are just as serious or even more serious but you are not in a habit of sharing them so openly and so loudly – in part because you know that it won’t help, and it’s just bad manners.

Let it be a lesson to you that being a drama queen – talking too much about your problems and about how overwhelmed and busy you are is neither impressive nor attractive to anyone who you might have a romantic interest it. What’s much more attractive is dealing with your problems quietly and impressing others with how you gain control over your issues and how you resolve them one by one.

Being and Not Being a Drama Queen is a State of Mind

I know a few drama queens of both sexes – the ones who are never available talk on the phone, take forever to return a phone call and can’t meet even for 30-minute lunch because they are “too busy.”  I also know a number of people who are objectively much busier and whose jobs and personal lives are much more complex and demanding, and yet they are surprisingly prompt about returning phone calls, texts, and e-mails. They are also much more available to meet. These are the same people who also don’t complain about how stressful and difficult their life is. It seems like they operate at a different level.  Their expectations from themselves and from what they can do for fun & work are completely different. They only thing they seem to not have time for is complaining. This means that it’s quite possible that whatever time and energy the first group of people takes to complain and feel sorry for themselves, the second group invests into working on their issues and doing other, better things with their time.

When you have a stressful life but you seem to be in charge of it and handle it well, it will be very attractive to both – your friends and the opposite sex.  Like all other abilities worth having, being able to take control of your life and not being a drama queen, if you are one today, will take time and practice, but it is sure worth the effort.

Bragging is One Sign That You Are a Drama Queen

Remember, real heroes do not go around telling people how strong and how smart they are. People who are worthy of admiration are the ones who show through their actions rather than words how they go about accomplishing things. Strive to be the one belonging to the second group. It takes longer for people to notice your accomplishment when you don’t rub it in their face upon meeting them, but is so much more impressive to them when they find out later on their own. Making sure you never come across as a drama queen is yet another step toward becoming more attractive, whether you are a guy or a woman.