So, you were working in the same office with this girl or perhaps you were in the same class at school, and one day you asked her out to only find out that she was not interested in talking to you and she basically rejected you. That rejection might have bothered you for a while, and maybe you were even embarrassed to run into her later. You were avoiding her for a while, but lately it looks like she is being more friendly with you than usual and you suspect that she might actually be interested in you now.
Should you be asking out the girl who rejected you in the past again?
– Absolutely! Why?
First of all, people change their mind all the time. The girl might have not wanted to go out with you before for a number of reasons. It’s possible that she was seeing someone at that time or that she had a bad break up with her boyfriend at about that time when you first approached her and expressing interest in getting to know her. Maybe she was just not in the right to be thinking about guys and dating when you asked her out. It might sound obvious, but things change, people change, and what people want changes as well.
Secondly, it is very common for women to reject a guy and regret it shortly after. At the moment when you approached her initially, she wasn’t quite ready to talk to you or didn’t know how to handle the situation and went into a safe “no, thank you” mode instead of dealing with the natural awkwardness of the situation and allowing things to warm up between the two of you. But later, she realized that she actually would like to go out with the guy who asked her out and that she didn’t really mean to reject him. Think about how you react when a stranger initiates a conversation with you by surprise. Almost subconsciously you try to cut the conversation short and move on, because you believe it’s the right thing to do and that’s the social norm. Imagine a beautiful woman comes to you and asks you what time it is. You will answer and you will keep walking almost on auto pilot, because that’s what you are used to doing when you are asked for something like that. When you ask a woman out, you might catch her off guard, thinking about her own issues and not being interested in talking to anyone at that very moment. She might not be interested in talking to you at that specific moment, but this doesn’t mean that she is not single, available and would not like you if she got to know you. If you wonder about how common it is, just check out the “missed connection” section on Craigslist in any city, and you will find dozens of postings by women who talk about how “flustered” they got when this guy talked to them and how much they want to have a second chance at talking to him.
So, how would you go about asking a girl out who rejected you before?
– The same exact way you would as if you never actually asked her our earlier.
There is no reason to make any references to the first time you wanted to go out with her or make her feel guilty about it. Talking about that first time she rejected you will do nothing good to your interaction. If things go well between the two of you, you will have plenty of time to laugh about your original encounter with her later in a cute way. But at the moment when you decide to ask her out again, you will have to show to her that you are a “real” man. Part of being a “real man” is letting those little things in the past go and showing your strength by not allowing it to affect your present.
so there this girl were really close we hang out but are a little awkward twords eachother due to us both liking eachother BUT she has an over protective dad that dosnt even allow her to have a friend thats a boy or even have a boys number and lots more but i asked her out we both know we like eachother but she said no. its most likely that she dosnt want to risk it or deal with the drama but recently (we go to school together) weve gotten to talking more and chill and im going to ask her again and i hoped her shyness dosnt affect it again but how should i ask her im planning to do it on valintines day also last time i asked her was online because my schools full of ass holes and will make fun of me and her if done publicly (also im not lieing theres at least 9 other girls that like me and i only like 1 of those girls but dont even know her as much )
What's worse than being rejected? Being rejected twice; move on.
i agree with this article but it could go both ways cause i believe if i asked her out before and got a no..if she happens to see me again then she should come to me if she really wanna talk. i did my part before and showed interest so if she still interested…prove it cause im not goin up to her again with the possibility of gettin another no
@kenny, a maybe is a no
i met this girl about 20 days ago during the end of the school year when we met she gave me her phone number immediatly and i added her on facebook she seemed so nice we got along quite well we had the same birth place shared common ineterests and she recently liked this guy but she kept commenting on her facebook how shes over him and such and she has to move on and try to be herself again next week that followed she wouldnt hang out in her usual spots moving around and such and wouldnt give me the same smile everytime i said hi but the last day of school i arrived late and asked her what periods we had today she answered and then i asked her when we had lunch then she said around 9 51 and i asked her if it would be too much to ask if i could see ehr one last time before summer started and she told me exactly yeap sorry but i like someone else so sorry and i told her but i only asked to see u tho and she said no javier sorry but no i only responded with an ok and left it at that i didnt even get to see her i got sad despressed its not summer and i am destroyed i have to take summer school for algebra 1 for a month the wait is unbearable i want to see her again im gonna be a tenth grader and shes gonna be in 12th im 15 and shes 16 ill see her after summer probably but what should i do?
Hi,i also rejected by my girl.she is in my class.when I asked her first time before 3 months, she replied "i dont know".then I got her number and was texting her last 3months.but I wanted something more than friendship.so,i know.i was asking her rapidly and forcing her and went to kill myself once too.i really need her.but recently before 2 weeks she stopped texting me.and dnt even look @ me.blocked me in facebook too.what should I do now?please someone help me.
First, texting a girl for three months is a major waste of time and a turn off. The girls wouldn’t be able to help but conclude that (1) you have nothing better to do; ad (2) you don’t have what it takes to move things forward – i.e. have a real conversation with her, ask her out, etc.
At this point there is nothing you can or should be doing about her except use that experience as a valuable lesson about what not to do in the future.
In my humble opinion, this article is just plain ridiculous!!!
First unbelievable quote from this article: “It is very common for women to reject a guy and shortly after regret it.”
WHERE IS THIS COMMON???
I see quite the opposite every single day. Most women get their rocks off shooting guys down and cutting them off at the knees at every opportunity. One would have to be truly courageous or truly stupid to set themselves up for a repeat failure.
Second unbelievable quote from this article:”She might have not wanted to go out with you before for a number of reasons. It’s possible that she was seeing someone at that time or that she had a bad break up with her boyfriend at about that time when you first approached her and expressing interest in getting to know her.”
You might want to throw in other reasons/excuses like: She’s unapproachable, stuck-up, hostile, materialistic, man-hating, and just waiting for the next chump she can cut to shreds.
I could not disagree more with this article. Trying to meet women in this day and age (of politically correct misandry) is an exercise in futility and complete hopelessness.
My question is this: how does one justify saying useless drivel like “don’t give up”, “keep trying”, “hang in there” or “there’s someone out there for you” when all one’s efforts are met with hostility, rejection, and failure?
Or more to the point, in light of today’s popular male-bashing culture, WHY SHOULDN’T GUYS GIVE UP??? Many have obviously thrown in the sponge already, myself included.
I’ve been rejected by the same girl twice, but I know she liked me before. She seems a little interested now, so should I try again?
Hey there, I asked a girl in my class out about a year and a half ago, and I kind of led her into saying no. Now I've asked her out again, but she said "maybe" and that she was busy the next weekends. and after that I haven't called her and barely talked to her in school. She is very shy after I asked her out. I'm gonna call her this week, since she didn't really give me an answer, but I'm wondering what the shyness can mean? she a shy girl normally, but after I called and asked, she hasn't said a word to me. an occasional looksee but nothing else. could this be a bad or a good sign? she's not avoiding me, but she's afraid to talk. not that I'm so much better…
I had that same problem. Ask her if she does. If she does then ask her why
Hi, there was this one time where I confessed to this girl at one of my friend's birthday party and she said that she has never thought about love. In the end, she 'kind of' rejected me. She didn't reject by saying 'no, im not interested' but she said, "hmm i prefer to stay as friends". What should I do? I thought about giving up on her but I'm finding difficult because I like her a lot. Is there still a second chance?. Also I have suspicions that she likes this other guy but I'm not entirely sure about that.
Good question. It's only a submission to rejection if you let it feel that way. What if you were to look at it like an unwelcome compliment or something you shouldn't take so personally?
I disagree. I realize that women are the ones who get to pick and choose when it comes to dating, but why would I want to surrender what little power I have left by submitting myself to rejection a SECOND time?
Very helpful!!!
This one will help those who are not confident in approaching the opposite sex's interest!!
They must believe in themselves. When she said no before, it doesn't mean that she will continue to regret again in the other time.
Maybe she just wanted to have a little time to think it over carefully before decision.
If they easily give up, that girl will think that you're scary of loss.
Just be patient. Try your best to express your feelings about her.
Maybe you will get an unexpected but happy ending!!
italian boy: there is only one thing you can do…tell her how you feel and tell her if she loves you then she will leace ger man for you. hope i helped
I'm a italian boy (28 years), sorry for my english.
It is a pleasure for me know you, my friends have spoken very well to me of you.
I expose my situation: i love a girl (22 years) that he met in November at my university. Unfortunately then I discovered that the girl is engaged (with a 25 years boy). but I has not surrendered. In this months, I made a nice friendly relationship with her. Next, I moved away for two weeks. Then, She searched me and She asked me why I leave. I told her that love. She told me that he had already understood, but was sorry that I separated because she appreciate me, she told that a better person.
Now, what can I do to make her fall in love for me?
Thank you.