One of the things that guys are concerned about the most when planning to go out on a date with the girl, who they don’t know very well or don’t know at all, is being at a loss of words and facing that dreaded, awkward silence on a date. Here are a few simple tips to help you deal with both – your fear of silence on a date and the silence itself, if you happened to find yourself in that situation on a date:
The Most Awkward Silence on a Date Hasn’t Killed Anyone Yet
I think we can all agree that no guy in the history of humanity has died or has been injured by a date that has gone way too quiet. So, don’t worry about it. If you run out of things to say, enjoy the challenge of living trough the awkward moment and learn how to deal with it or how to break the silence.
Silence on a Date Is Not Necessarily Your Fault, But It Can Also Be a Blessing
They say it takes two to tango. This certainly applies to a conversation. Even the most talkative guy is going to have a hard time talking to a girl who doesn’t actively participate in a conversation and who sits quietly without saying much, whether because she is too shy, too boring, or not interested in her date. However, if the reason that you can’t develop an interesting conversation is that either or both of you have realized that you are not attracted to each other, it’s great to find that out early, so that you can move on without spending too much time pretending like there is something there. So, if not having much to say to each other on a date is an early sign that you are not a good match, consider it a huge time saver.
If There Is a Potential for Mutual Interest, Don’t Act Like There Is Anything Wrong Just Because You Are Not Talking The Whole Time
If things have been going well on your date otherwise, but at some point you ran out of things to say, don’t act like there is anything wrong. It’s normal to take a break from talking when you are out with someone. Learn how to be comfortable and act like you are comfortable with a few moments of silence. This is your opportunity to demonstrate presence and confidence. Few people can handle the seemingly awkward silence in a calm manner, without looking nervous or uncomfortable, but if you can learn how to do it, it will be very impressive. Also, don’t forget that not talking enough on a date is probably much better than talking too much.
Two Easy Ways to Break an Awkward Silence on a Date
My two favorite ways to break silence on a date are: (a) bring up a movie you recently watched, ask her whether she watched it and liked it, and ask her what she thinks about a certain part in that movie which you liked or disliked or otherwise have a strong opinion on; or … (b) if you feel like it might worth breaking a wall between the two of you, address the issue of silence head on – ask her playfully whether she is good at handling silences.