How to Handle the “Tell Me About Yourself” Text Messages From Girls

tell me about yourself text message from a girl Anonymous asks: “I met this girl on Facebook,  we exchanged phone numbers and and after a few texts, she asks me by text “Tell me about yourself”. Am I really supposed to tell her all about me by text?””

First, I am honestly disappointed that people actually send those kinds of lame text messages. Do they really expect you to send a long, detailed reply text where you really tell them about yourself? I am not surprised to hear that girls actually send messages like that, since I have received my fair share of “How are u?”s and “Hey”‘s texts.

So, let’s talk about how to reply to this kind of text message:

1. Actually answering that question literally and telling her all about you by text is a bad idea and something you should never be doing. 

Texting back something like “I was born in….. went to school…. and moved here in…. with my family” is a terrible way to handle this question, whether it’s ask by text or in any other way. It suggests that you are either boring or willing to waste time typing away long stories, as if you had nothing better to do, which should never be the case.  You should never be getting to know a girl or letting her getting to know you by text. Texting girls should be reserved for short witty/flirty messages or for logistics only about the location of meeting, being a little later, etc.

2. Ignore The Question and Call Her Sometimes Later

One of the great ways to prevent the damage that pointless texting can cause is simply stopping to reply and then picking up the phone and calling her. The same applies to the “Tell me about yourself” question. Don’t answer, but instead – tell her that you don’t think it’s such a great idea to get to know each other by text and you will just call her later. Don’t be afraid to do this. Many girls (especially the better kind) will appreciate this. See real example here:


I realize that talking on the phone is “out of style” these days but if you met someone on Facebook, hearing each other’s voice is important to figuring out whether you are going to like each other, and texting won’t cut it. Instead, it will turn you into one of her texting buddies very quickly. Therefore, the best and the easiest way to respond to this text is with: “I will call you later” or “I will tell you later”  or just ignore the text altogether and call her later on that day, and not worry about telling her about yourself at all, at least at that point. Given how many girls, especially younger girls, have ADD, she is unlikely to remember asking you to tell her about yourself anyway.

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6 years ago

Even on a dating site it’s probably the laziest question to ask, given that there’s plenty of information to go by in the description. The job of the interested party is to fill in the holes with by extracting bits of information with direct questions. I get that question a lot on dating sites. I simply ignore those.

7 years ago

Hmm, what if you don’t have the girl’s number, and are talking to her online, and you CAN’T meet up with her for over 2 weeks, but you can tell she’s interested. I asked her out for a drink, she said she’s going on vacation for 2 weeks on Thursday but would love to stay in touch and get one when she gets back.

Her responsiveness and eagerness to message online definitely gives off the impression she’s interested. But, of course, she eventually asked that lame “tell me about yourself” question. I have no idea how to respond. I cant really use your advice, since I won’t be seeing her or talking to her on the phone for weeks. I guess I’ll just have to pull something out of my ass in this specific case, although normally I’d take your advice. I just don’t think it applies to this case. Any suggestions?

7 years ago
Reply to  Mike

That’s a good question. You do the same thing – tell her that you will tell her about yourself when you meet in person, and move on to talking about someone else. While she is away, one fun thing to do is to ask her for the photos of the area she is traveling to. It’s a fun way to continue talking and maintaining communication while she is away.

7 years ago

Couldn’t agree more. Laziness is the most common reason.

Sourav kumar
Sourav kumar
7 years ago

Tell me about yourself” is the worst question to ask in any situation. When you ask it, it almost suggests like you are too lazy or don&#039t care to ask a meaningful and specific question,

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