Uptight Women: How Being Uptight Hurts Your Dating Life

uptight women an datingFew men like uptight women and women who act like they are some kind of royalty, who should be treated like a very expensive and fragile artifact. In fact, I don’t know any such men except those guys who think that all women are uptight, and that’s just how it is, just because the few ones that they met happened to be that way.

Uptight women are hard to get along with on just about any level. An uptight woman can’t take a joke and is offended by that which is meant to entertain, is really hard to please and is easily and quickly offended by things which would be trivial and are not a big deal to others. Uptight women are also usually very moody and unpredictable. You just never know when she is going to snap on you, run out the door or start yelling at you for no significant reason.

When a guy goes out with an uptight woman, she would be constantly complaining about where they are, whether it’s dinner or any other common situation on a date, what’s going on around and what the guy said or did at any given moment – from his table manners to his views and opinion on some political issues. An uptight woman is hypersensitive and takes herself extremely seriously. She is more likely to give your waiter a hard time, return her food during dinner and ask for something else or be a pain in just about any other way. Many guys, even the most confident guys, will have a hard time relaxing and being themselves around such a woman.

For uptight women, being uptight is just one way to cover up their insecurities. Men who have a lot of dating experience and who have met different kinds of women throughout their life know that if a woman they are out with seems to be uptight and taking herself too seriously, it is a sure sign of insecurity. This also mean that she probably feels deeper on the inside that she is not all that. That’s why an uptight woman constantly has to remind herself and others around her about how important she is.

When you, as a woman, demand so much respect for yourself, you must feel that there are not enough reasons to respect you, and that you need to remind others of your claimed self-worth even during your interactions with the opposite sex as early as on a first date. Some uptight women do it even earlier – when that cute guy that they might be interested in going out with is just trying to approach them, meet them and have that very first conversation with them.

The truth is that the most confident, intelligent, educated, fun and otherwise attractive women are usually not uptight, because they don’t have to prove anything to anyone. They are secure at who they are and where they are in life, and they don’t mind laughing at things around them, including laughing at themselves. In fact they enjoy self-deprecating humor and they like guys who can enjoy the same. What uptight women are offended by will often entertain the easy going ones.

As a woman, I bet that sense of humor is one of the more important qualities you are looking for in a man who you would like to date and potentially have a relationship with. It’s important to keep in mind that guys who are naturally funny and witty want to stay away from uptight women. They want to be with someone who can appreciate their humor and who can dish out some of their own humor, wit, and sarcasm. These are the things that uptight women are not known for. To those men, sense of humor is just as important in their dating or relationship partner as it is to you in guys. These guys are certainly not interested in being overly cautious and politically correct, and they are not particularly interested in walking on eggshells when talking to a woman that they are attracted to. Thus, the chances that they will want to go out and date uptight women are very slim to none.

  • student and teacher

    As a caveat I must say that if a woman is being uptight it is probably not because she is interested and doesn’t know how to act. Its probably that she isn’t interested so she’s not going to open up to a guy.

    If a woman finds you to be unattractice in some way or not right for them, they’ll certainly have their guards up. Not an error on their part, but nobodys fault. Just a lack of chemistry.

    Some people are more superficial and if they aren’t attracted to a guy instantly, they won’t be open and friendly. And I can’t bash them for it. We all have our tastes.

    But yeah guys as you say should keep their humor and wit about them because its not the humor and wit that hurt their chances with the uptight women. Its probably another quality about them that they didn’t like.

    I know some really happy couples who have a really odd sense of humor and even act like children sometimes so its about finding someone like you rather than accomodating yourself to people who don’t like you

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  • Mickey

    R:

    You are my hero!!!

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  • R

    I’m new here and have been reading what “student and teacher” says because she has commented here a lot. To put it bluntly just plain ignore whatever she says because its wrong; just like this comment is wrong. She has clearly missed the point and she does EVERY time.

    Uptight women are uptight; all the time; with EVERY guy they meet. Its not selectively and even though ms. teacher can’t “bash them for it” I will. The whole point of the article is that uptight women cannot be approached by ANY GUY and the fact that they act cold, aloof, and disrespectful towards guys means these guys will NOT approach other women either (because they will expect the same treatment). So until these uptight women learn to be more open and accepting they will NEVER meet any guys (because none of them are good enough), they make it miserable for the guys who do try to approach them, AND they ruin it for other women who DO want to be approached. So if you are one of these uptight women, either mellow the hell out and welcome guys who approach you or just stay the hell home and pout.

    One final comment, these are usually the same women who claim “where are all the good men?” but when men approach them they shoot them down.

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