When it comes to the level of your partner’s satisfaction from being intimate with you, lots of different factors come into play. Of course, not everything depends on you, and sexual chemistry between the two people is often something that’s either there or not there. However, you should at the very least make sure that you are not making those bad mistakes that are major turn-offs, and which are so easy to avoid.
One of the bigger mistakes that a women make in bed with a new partner is delivering a bad experience, thereby discouraging him from wanting to come back fore more. And, by “more” I refer to not just sex but to also spending time with that woman and continuing to get to know her. And by “bad experience” I don’t refer to typical issues or awkwardness associated with having sex with a new partner, but a much more significant turn-off.
Consider the following random but realistic / real-life example. You started seeing a guy you like. At some point, you were ready to do some things with him, but you were not quite ready to go “all the way”. You decided to give him a blow job, but you didn’t want him to cum into your mouth. Therefore, you stopped blowing him before he was ready to ejaculate and in so many ways let him know that it’s up to him to finish.
From your perspective, you haven’t done anything wrong. You went as far as your were comfortable, and you pleased the guy to an extent. However, it’s very likely that for the guy it was one frustrating and humiliating experience, especially if he feels that you actually enjoy taunting him, and this is some kind of game for you. I suppose the same applies to handjobs. If you started it, you should finish it. Or… don’t start it at all. When it comes to sex, you are much better off waiting till you are ready to deliver great experience then being a mediocre partner earlier.
You may be wondering why it matters so much for guys that you make them cum. Without getting too philosophical, I will just remind you that for a male perspective – a major aspect of enjoying sex in any of its forms is knowing that you got him to the “finish” line. So, if you started it, you should finish it. Or… don’t start it at all. After all, when it comes to sex, you are much better off waiting till you are ready to deliver great experience then being a mediocre partner earlier.
Yes. What’s the point of starting but not finishing? If she decides to blow him than it makes sense she should follow through untill he’s finished. If she doesn’t whant him to cum in her mouth she can direct him to do it on her face or breasts.
men are so happy to get one they never complain. Sometimes you must swallow if it is before work or a quickie at a party but that is it.
As a man I confirm that what you wrote makes sense… 🙂