Three Golden Rules For A Great First Date Place

When choosing a first date destination, many guys are trying to reinvent the wheel and come up with some extra special idea to impress upon the woman they are going out with how unique he is. This is neither necessary nor even a good idea. When it comes to first dates, you really cannot beat the simple simple rules that have been working for generations:

1. A Great First Date Place Has a Low Noise Level And Free of Distractions

The only bigger logistical obstacle to developing real interest in each other on a first date than alcohol is noise. A quiet place is far more conducive to having a pleasant conversation and developing intimacy. A quieter environment means you can speak with softer voice, which makes any flirting far more effective, as opposed to yelling and struggling to hear each other. This is exactly why concerts or amusement parks or flee markets and other activities involving many people around are not great for first dates, because they defeat the purpose of a first date, which is focusing on each other, rather than on the things that are going on around.

2. It Should Not Be A Typical First Date Destination, Where Every Other Couple Goes

Don’t set your first date at a place where just about everyone else goes on their first date in your town or in your neighborhood. It’s going to make you look very unoriginal. Chances are that the girl you are about to go out on a date with has already been there many times, and there is no reason to drag her there yet again, unless you really don’t have any other decent alternatives in the area where you live. Otherwise, take her to a place where she likely hasn’t been before or at least hasn’t been there on a date, or wouldn’t have thought that you would take her there. That special destination doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy or extravagant in any way. In fact, the more simple the better. It just has to be different.

If you do end up going to a place where the girl has been many times before despite your efforts to come up with an original destination, and she says “I come here all the time” as you walk up to it, tell her playfully “Well, guess what – you have never been here with me, have you?”

3. A Good Set-Up For Sitting Relatively Close To Each Other

You don’t want to sit ten feet away from the girl you are out with on a first date. This is a typical problem with formal, high-end restaurants. You should stay away from these kinds of places on a first date for many other reasons too, but the distance from each other when sitting down is just one of those reasons that make a personal interaction feel like some kind of work meeting.  The best first date places have a sitting set-up where you sit closer to each other because the tables are smaller, or where you can even sit next to each other.

Typical examples of venues that meet all of the above three criteria are – casual middle eastern cafes or hooka lounges, local neighborhood coffee houses with couches, and intimate wine bars. The common examples of the venues that don’t meet these criteria are clubs, high end restaurants, loud (Irish) bars playing live music or loud dj music, street fairs, and busy shopping malls during rush hour.

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