One of the favorite excuses that so many guys use for not dating or not even meeting as many women as they like is their financial situation, coupled with accusing women of being greedy and materialistic. It’s easy to sit back and say something like “All that women care of is money and status, and since I don’t have any, I have no chance of meeting or attracting any of them.” This is nothing but an excuse for not getting out of your comfort zone and not taking action to meet the women you would like to meet.
Assuming that all women are materialistic and that all they care about is money when it comes to dating is just another assumption and stereotype that makes you resent women and hurts your dating life as a result. Like with just about any other stereotype, this one also has plenty of exceptions. Some women are indeed vain, vapid, greedy, self-centered and superficial. Fine dining, expensive purses, and being seen out at a high-end restaurant at a reserved table with an expensive bottle of champagne is what they are after. But not all women are like that. In fact, there are plenty of women who have as little respect for the greedy kind as you do.
Plenty of women out there want something very fair and reasonable – they want to meet and date a guy who has professional and/or academic goals and ambitions that he is excited about and who does something about achieving them. Showing that kind of motivation makes the guy more attractive as a person to women, and it also makes women have more respect and admiration for him, which is essential to a long term romantic interest and attraction. These women also want to be with a guy who is not going to be a financial burden on their shoulders. No woman, even the most financially accomplished woman, wants to support a guy. This kind of relationship would make her feel like a mother, and no woman wants to feel like she is her lover’s mother – at least not when it comes to finances.
This doesn’t mean that you necessarily have to match the income of the woman you are interested in, make more than she does, but it does mean that you, as a guy, should be able to cover your own expenses and be able to afford the basics when you spend time with her, at least in the beginning of your relationship, and before you would make any big plans such as going on vacations together or buying a house together as a couple.
Ironically, professional and financially independent women tend to not care as much about the guys’ money as those women who struggle to make ends meet. First, the former can afford what they want on their own, and they don’t need a guy to buy them a pair of shoes or a plate of pasta at a restaurant. Secondly, many of those successful women have realized that they are not interested in the majority of the guys they meet in professional and social settings. They find those men to be too stiff and boring. A woman who doesn’t need to worry about her car payments or rent and who has a financially comfortable life wants excitement – she wants love, romantic tension and chemistry. She knows that these things cannot be bought, and she also knows that her interest in, and attraction to, a guy has little to do with his bank account.