In this article about the two common reasons a guy doesn’t call the girl after their first date, one critically important but less obvious reason is missing: he didn’t call you because you did not represent an exceptional value to him on a date, and there was nothing about you that made you stood out from the rest.
It’s possible that he thought you were nice and attractive, but if the guy you went out with has been meeting different girls and dating around, he needs a reason to stop and focus on you. In order for that to happen he must see something exceptional in you that would make him realize that you are unlike other women – you are funnier, smarter and more interesting, which makes you all the more attractive and sexier than most, if not all, of the other girls he met recently or ever.
The moment he realizes that a woman like you is hard to come by, and he might have to wait many months or even years before he meets someone else like you, that will get his attention and will make him want to see you again, and again. This is very similar to our choices of restaurants. There are three types of restaurants – (1) the ones we go to and don’t like; (2) the once we go to and kind of like but don’t really feel like going again; and (3) our favorite places that we like and keep going back over and over. You want to be the kind of woman that the guy you like wants to go back over and over.
Becoming that kind of exceptional woman is not a matter of buying a new outfit, or reading one dating book or losing a few pounds. It’s a combination of qualities that make you more desirable to the kind of men that you are interested in being with. This includes your behavior and demeanor, your communication skills, your appearance, and just as importantly – your sexual competence. Above all, being feminine is paramount to being attractive and desirable on a first date and at any time after.
I would agree on this.
A female reader suggested to me today another obvious reason guys don’t call after the first date – they are dating someone who they like just as much or even more and go out to dates out of sheer boredom or for attention.