I believe that defensiveness is one of the most damaging qualities to the dating and relationship dynamics, especially in our (American) society, and… to pretty much any other interaction socially and even professionally. In this stream I discuss the various issues surrounding defensiveness in dating and what you can / should do to minimize this problem in your own dating life.
Recently, I attended an inspiring presentation by a Rabbi who pointed out, among other things, that one of the main goals of human life is to work on and fix our flaws and shortcoming. This appears to be in direct contradiction to what you hear people say all around in response to any type of criticism or constructive feedback – “don’t try to change me, I am going to be myself and I am not going to change for anyone.” This latter approach is an unconvincing, weak excuse for not doing what’s indeed so important to building a good life – self improvement. The video below encourages you not to resort to excuse, and instead take action to become a better person:
Many guys assume that women who dress and act modestly and don’t advertise their sexuality have low sex drive or are otherwise not good sexual partners. This video talks about whether this assumption about women’s modesty is true and why:
It has been known that one of the leading causes of stress, arguments, and disagreement in relationships are money problems. The issue of money and who pays for what can arise at any point -from that first date to making major financial decisions and purchases when you ar already in what seems to be a stable, long term relationship. In this steam, we will cover some of the most common money questions I have been receiving from people of ages between mid twenties and late 40’s. Join the stream, and post your comments and questions for live discussion.
In the stream below I talk about the stupid things we say online and in person to our dates and the people we are messaging on dating apps that we shouldn’t and which are total turn offs. Both men and women are guilty of saying things that make the other side roll their eyes…