Generally, sending long text messages to a woman you recently met is in fact an unattractive beta texting behavior, especially when it comes to small talk and setting up dates. This is for two reasons. First, you need to remember that pretty much every woman out there has at least 2-3 close friends who she texts too every day throughout the day. This is a lot of work. The last thing you want is to tire her by making her read your messages that are too long for no good reason. Secondly, many women would naturally assume that the guy who sends them long messages has way too much time on his hands and has nothing better to do, and that’s never attractive.
I regularly see how this behavior alone can ruin a potential for getting a woman’s interest, because instead of looking forward to your messages, she will start feeling burdened by them, and that’s never a good thing. And while one or two long text messages might not be a big deal, when this type of writing style becomes a pattern, you will surely earn a beta reputation.
So, how do you fix this behavior, if you are the type of guy who tends to send long, drown out text messages to the girls you are interested in? – One of the most effective ways to fix it is to edit your own text messages before you send them out and see if you can remove any of the verbiage that isn’t necessary, and without which you will still say to her exactly what you want. Often, it’s very easy to do. Here is one typical example of how a long, “tiring” text message can be edited and significantly shortened to make it easier on to read and respond.
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The revised message is short and to the point. It says all the right things about its author – confidence and initiative and being just forward enough without being too chatty. It’s very easy to read and respond, and that’s how most of your text messages should be with any woman you just met and are not sure yet, whether you like each other and whether she is interested in you. Once her interest is established, you won’t need to worry about these types of things too much.
