Like in “real” life, meeting people on the internet requires knowing how to come across to your potential dating partners as someone who is attractive, interesting and above all – different from others, and not just another face on the dating site with a bunch of the same old, boring self serving adjectives on his page. More of the same “I am interesting, successful, funny, adventurous, fit, etc…” bs is not going to make your profile catch the attention of those readers who have see the same language dozes of even hundreds of times.
Few people bother to explore and learn what it takes to write a great dating profile that will bring them the kind of responses they would like to have. This is unfortunate because understanding how to write a great dating profile is simple, and it is likely to dramatically improve your chances of finding love on the internet or at least receive messages from and date people of a much higher quality.
One of the most important qualities you must demonstrate in order to have better results at meeting people on line is that you are different from the rest and that you stand out as a more interesting and thus – a more attractive person. You can achieve this by making sure that your dating profile reflects the following elements: 1. Writing a powerful opening; 2. Avoiding bragging and not using cliche, meaningless statements that everybody else uses; and 3. Using details in your profile instead of typical, generic statements.
1. A Great Dating Profile Must Have a Powerful Opening
The first line of your profile or “about me” section really counts. It will either intrigue the reader or it will make him sigh and go “oh well, let’s see who else is out there”. Polite introductions are important in many circumstances in life, but an online dating profile is not one of them. You are much better off sparing your readers the pleasantries of “Hello, thanks for stopping by my profile. This is the first time I am doing something like this, etc…” There is NO need for such introductions. Everybody knows why you are there and what you want. Instead, just “dive” right in! Say something interesting, eye catching or even better – brain catching – in the very beginning of your profile, express your opinion on anything that will give your potential dating partners an insight into who you are. You can even start your page with a famous slogan that you like or a funny story about something that happened to your recently. You can start your profile with something like: “I don’t care what you drive and what kind of suit you wear, but I am very interested in what you want to achieve in your life as an individual.”
2. Don’t Brag and Don’t Use Cliche Statements In Your Dating Profile
Make sure that your page is free of “I am independent,” “I am educated, smart, accomplished”, “I am as comfortable in jeans as I am in a dress,” “I like to have fun,” “I am compassionate” and alike statements that men have seen over and over before. These self-descriptions have been used a million times before and they add nothing to your profile, which means that they will not evoke the attention of those few interesting guys that you are looking to meet. In fact, many of them will be rolling their eyes and thinking “Jeez, another girl who is full of herself, who thinks she is God’s gift, and who is going to be a pain in the ass to deal with.” Don’t forget that actions speak much, much louder than words, so let the guy find out who you are by getting to know you rather than reading a bunch of adjectives on your page that anybody else could write about themselves.
3. Use the Power of Details in Your Profile to Make it More Compelling
Any writing rich in details has a much greater impact on a reader than a bunch of generic, abstract statements. Specific facts about who you are and what you think and like will compel like-minded people to respond and will make their life easier by allowing them to respond specifically to the things you say and thus show their personality to your in a more compelling fashion. Thus, you are much better off replacing the typical, boring, “I am intelligent” with something like ”few things excite me more than picking up a great book that makes you think and wonder about the important questions and spending a few hours reading it while sipping coffee at a quite, cozy cafe. This will not only make your profile more attractive, but it will also make it easier on the right female reader to respond in a way that would interest you more as well. After all, would you rather have a reply saying “I am intelligent too” or read something far more interesting in response to your profile, such as: ”It’s funny that you mention reading a book at a cozy shop. Last Friday I did just that and it felt so much better than hanging out at a bar for 4 hours and talking about nothing.” Instead of saying ”I am active,” say “I can’t help but feel guilty if I sit idle for longer than an hour even when I can. Instead of saying “I am educated” say “Consider me crazy, but I really miss school and all the great things I had the opportunity to learn in college.”
I am sure that by now you understand how you can take the typical, boring statements and dress them up with the detail that will make your dating profile so much more interesting to read and so much more tempting to respond to. And make sure you check out examples of bad and good dating profiles to attract women online.