How a Woman’s Sex Drive Affects Her Personality

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A Woman’s Sex Drive Says Much More About Her Than Just How Much She Loves and Enjoys Sex

You might think that whether a woman has strong or not so strong sex drive only affects her sexuality and behavior in bed, but that’s not the case. In reality, that one single trait affects so many other aspects of who she is and how she is going to treat you, as a guy, from the first moments that you meet her and try to talk to her or ask her out until the time you are dating her or have a relationship with her.

If you have met and dated a fair number of women you know that when it comes to their sex drive there are at least two main kinds of women out there. There are the ones who have a high sex drive. They get as horny or even hornier than you are, and they are generally as eager to have sex as you are or even much more. You never need to ask them or convince them to have sex, and they rarely, if ever, say no to your sexual advances. These women like it when you are being aggressive and are turned on by you being rough with them, and that’s one of the things that makes them come across as more feminine, and as a result – more desirable to men. On the other hand, there are other women for whom sex isn’t nearly as important or not important at all. They don’t seem to enjoy it that much and it would take some convincing on your part to get them to have sex with you. Although this is not a strict rule and there are plenty of exceptions out there, a woman’s sex drive has a profound impact on her personality. Here are some of the most important examples of how sex driver shapes a woman’s interactions with men:

Women With High Sex Drive Are Generally Nicer to Men

Consider a woman with a high sex drive. She wants something from men that she enjoys very much – the pleasure of physical intimacy and penetration. She knows what orgasm is and she is looking to find it. It’s one of her main priorities in life. As a result, she will generally be nicer to men, even to the one who pursue her but who she is not interested in, because she can personally relate to their sexual desires and fantasies. She often feels what these men feel. In turn, because she is interested in sex more and because she is easier to get along with due to her less uptight nature, she is more likely to connect with guys quicker and have sex more often. When that kind of woman has sex, she enjoys it much more than other women who are colder. Her satisfaction from sex is also much greater. That greater sensation of pleasure will affect her personality, making her generally more satisfied and happier with her life. After all, it’s not a secret that having sex has a profound positive physiological effect on women. And actually enjoying sex greatly enhances that positive effect further. That woman who is happier and more satisfied sexually will be even nicer to others in general and to the men she finds attractive in particular, because she associates at least some men with feeling that sexual pleasure. Do you notice a circle here? –  a woman with higher sex driver  ——> more sex —–> being satisfied sexually  ——> being happier ——-> being friendlier and as a result being more open to flirting and meeting men when she is single and available.

Women With Low or No Sex Drive Are Harder to Approach, Meet and Get Along With

On the other hand, a woman with a lower sex drive or someone who is nearly frigid is not going to be as nice to men, simply because she doesn’t want anything from them physically. I know this sounds like a gross oversimplification of a female behavior, but at the end of the day, having an “agenda” always affects our behavior. If a woman doesn’t have sex drive, this means that she can’t personally relate to how men feel about sex and how they feel about women, and therefore she will be far harsher on those men who express sexual interest in her.

In addition, ff she is professionally (overly) ambitious, her mind and her schedule will be revolving around her work, and she will devote very little time and attention to having more love, romance, and sex in her life. This will translate into her unfriendly and non-flirtatious behavior, which in turn will make it  very difficult for any guy to approach and meet her.

A colder woman will be less receptive to sarcasm and inappropriate jokes, as she might not even understand many of them. And the only reason she will be talking to guys, going out on dates and having sex is because she knows that this is something she is supposed to be doing as a woman, and because her family and the society expect her to have a guy in her life, work toward having family, children, etc. Again, we see a circle here:  a lower sex drive ———> doesn’t need sex from men ——— > not as nice to men ———> less approachable and less likely to meet new men ———-> having less sex ———–> being less happy.

Early Signs of High Sex Drive v. Low Sex Drive in Women Are Important

You should only be pursuing and dating those women who have high sex drive, since it will be so much more exciting getting to know them and being with them on just about every level. This difference in sex drive among women is a very useful sign for any guy. The early signs you see in a woman that would suggest that she has little or no interest in sex should be a serious red flag to you. No matter how smart and interesting she might be as a person and how many other good qualities she has, her lack of sexual desire will translate into other problems. You are not going to be happy in a relationship where a woman you are with doesn’t want you as much as you want her. On the other hand, if the girl’s demeanor, conversation, and body language suggest that she has high sex drive, it should of course be early good news for you.

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01/13/2017 9:08 am

The only thing this person wrote that’s true is women with high sex drives are nicer to men because they relate to them and women with lower sex drives aren’t nicer and don’t relate and don’t like sexual jokes. And, really, that’s only initially the case that women with lower sex drives are more closed off. You have to make them feel comfortable with you, and then there is no social difference between them and other women, except maybe with some of the jokes you tell.

Your sex drive does not automatically mean you are more or less happy, and you don’t automatically want to date a woman with a higher sex drive. The way I see it, a woman with a high sex drive is more likely to cheat on you, be bisexual and/or want to live a sexual lifestyle that doesn’t suit you (i.e. Swinging, polyamory, etc). I also don’t think of sexually aggressive women as more feminine–the opposite, actually.

Shemiah Seewald
Shemiah Seewald
04/21/2017 12:30 pm
Reply to  rensational

She didn’t say the women is more aggressive but rather a woman with a high sex drive wants the male to be more aggressive, making the male feel more dominant and thus she seems more feminine. I have a high sex drive and I’ve never cheated or been a part of any kind of ménage. But when I am in a relationship with a man, I like to have sex 3-6 times a night, every night. If I have to miss a night so be it, we’re talking about a high sex drive not a sex addict. There is a very big difference.

Up and down blue ballz.
Up and down blue ballz.
06/16/2016 8:15 pm

I got mixed signals from my ex. She claimed to be a nympho, and seemed to be for a little, till out of no where she kept saying no. I try being nice, and sweet but it didn’t work. The only time she got back in bed is after I snapped on her dealing with the bullsh*t she did instead of letting her go on about stuff I did wrong for who knows how long. She seemed interested again, and was good till she became distant again. I even talk to her still and she has no where near the sex drive I have. This is useful, but it doesn’t cover everything, considering I left an exclusive fwb to be with her, where there was nothing but sex. I did make an effort in the relationship, but she stayed closed off for the two years.

11/03/2015 6:38 am

Women with a high sex drive don’t like rough or aggressive men. That advice is weird. They want to take control. They won’t at first because they want to see what you’re like, but women with a high sex drive know what they want and will eventually either get it or leave. Getting roughed up is not what anyone wants!

01/20/2014 11:20 pm

Yeah, but those 1000 other reasons a woman looks unhappy or is bitchy could not mean a damn thing to men if you're unapproachable. That's what this article is saying.

01/13/2014 2:09 pm

The opposite is true quite often as well. Some of us girls are very sexual but we are either shy or being sexually unfulfilled or frustrated, among other things, makes us look less happy. Often, we act or look unhappy for reasons that have nothing to do with our sex life or sex drive. We have problems at work, at school, etc…. You can't just assume that just because a girl is bitchy or look unhappy that she is frigid. There could be 1000 others reasons why she is not nice to you.

paul taylor
paul taylor
04/21/2015 10:03 am
Reply to  jackieC

Well. I guess if she is not being nice, the why doesn’t matter. If she is interested in someone she will “find a way to be nice” that is if she is adult enough to compose herself when she meets a guy she is interested in.

06/28/2017 7:58 am
Reply to  jackieC

You think men have it all ? happy life and have no complaint whether or not they are getting sex. I am a shining example, I have been sex deprived for years but I come as very helpful, happy and approachable at workplace and other social activities. No one can tell my relationship is broken.

There is clear link and that I’d testoteron hormone. Men on and average have higher sex drive (I know feminist will call me a liar, but that’s okay, they do not live in a reality). More testosterone = more happiness, it gives you more confidence that opportunities are endless and it gives you energy to pursue happiness.