Is Meeting Quality Single Men Really Just a Matter of Luck?

Too many women believe that meeting a quality, interesting, ambitious, confident, and funny guy is a matter of fate, luck, or some mysterious set of circumstances that will bring you and him together by total coincidence. Certainly, luck and being in the right place at the right time play a role in meeting a great guy. However, luck is only secondary to your ability to meet and attract the kind of quality single men you want, and luck alone rarely leads to meeting a guy with whom you would have a great connection on all levels.

As simple and as trivial as it might sound, there is no way around it – in order to attract quality single men, you must become a better woman who sends a message that she is superior to others in her own way. It’s important to remember that men of higher quality value their time more than all the other guys, and they will not trade their free time for just anything or anyone. The guys who are truly great and are serious about their personal life are as picky as you are with men or are even pickier. They will not fall for a woman as easily as other men.  They have options when it comes to women, and they know it.  They know they have a lot to offer, and that’s not a matter of their arrogance; it’s just a fact.

To attract an exceptional man, you must also be a woman who stands out from the rest in a way that would make that guy think: “Wow, she is someone I can see sharing my life with. I better pay attention to her because I am probably not going to meet someone this great any time soon, given my experience so far”.  Every guy who has dated for a while knows that there aren’t that many women out there who are truly great, and who guys typically would call a “keeper”, but they are out there.

When you start working on actively improving as yourself – whether it’s losing weight, becoming more patient and less uptight, more interesting, better conversationalist and listener, and learning a few things about what makes men particularly happy sexually – you will be much more likely to attract the  guys who notice and appreciate those qualities in a woman.

I see a lot of women around who feel that they are automatically entitled to meeting, dating and being with “Mr. Right”.  They think that the only reason they can’t meet or keep one of those great guys is because men as a whole are mediocre or because these women have some kind of bad luck with the opposite sex. It only takes looking at a woman’s typical online dating profile in order to see that. “Don’t contact me if you are…”  “I am only interested in….”, “If you are….. then move onto the next profile” etc…  – This is the typical language that many men find in women’s dating profiles.  Although it’s a good idea to know what you want and what you wish to avoid, few things are more unattractive to a quality guy than a woman who believes that she deserves the best of everything without having all that much to offer.

On the other hand, if you commit to making your personal growth a priority –  if you commit to becoming more physically attractive, funnier, more feminine and a little more outgoing, while also not prematurely disqualifying a man as soon as you meet him, like so many other women do, your ability to meet and attract the kind of men you want will dramatically improve. This is a far more difficult and longer way, but also much a much more effective way of increasing your chances of  meeting that great guy than simply leaning back and saying that you are perfect the way you are and if guys can’t appreciate you for who they are, it’s their problem.

The most simple first step you can take is to try to eliminate some of the flaws you have in your behavior that can be easily fixed –

Are you always late? Then perhaps you should commit to being on time or arriving a few minutes early for every future meeting and every future date. I assure you that many guys and especially the high quality guys will appreciate it. Being punctual sends a strong message  – you are serious about your life and about the people you are dealing with, and you are not like most other women.

Is it possible that you talk too much and tend to dominate conversation? Then, perhaps it’s time to start listening more and not be so eager to share everything you have to share with the men you meet on your first dates? The same is true about bragging. There is no need to talk about how ambitious, accomplished and independent you are. Be that way, but just don’t talk about it. These qualities are generally attractive but boasting about them or generally talking about work too much isn’t. The same applies to your views on gender quality and feminism. Supporting equality is wonderful, but talking about it on dates is both unnecessary and unattractive. Your dates with them men you meet are not a political campaign, so there is no need to treat them as such.

Are you overwhelmed by your schedule and do you chronically overbook yourself to the point where you obviously look anxious and fidgety on your dates because you are thinking about all the things that you need to finish on that day?  – Then perhaps it’s time to take a hard look at that schedule and ask yourself whether by trying to catch everything, you end up enjoying nothing, and cutting some the stuff out. If talking to guys and going out with them on dates feels like a chore rather than a fun, exciting activity, then there will be no chance of any type of connection.

These are just a few random ideas that many women should consider in order to instantly makes themselves more attractive (or less unattractive). You should be able to think of more things you can easily do today to intrigue the men you are interesting in meeting and getting to know.