This statement about a social mask is made by one of the dating coaches for women I respect the most. When I saw it last night, it had really made me stop and think about its far reaching applications for a while. It talks about and says something so critically important for both men and women, and it has never been more relevant than today.
Being quite familiar with Wade’s work and I can imagine that what she primarily meant when she said this about women’s masks is that when a woman takes off her social mask of strength and invincibility and exposes her true feminine, vulnerable nature, she will attract a man who is strong and masculine enough to appreciate those beautiful qualities, which sadly become progressively more and more rare. On the other hand, when a woman keeps her masks of dominance on, she will only attract the weaker men who are willing to settle for that type of female energy, or who actually prefer to be in a relationship with a dominant woman. Then, there are also guys who believe that truly feminine women no longer exist in the western world. While this can’t possibly be true, the important question is for how many women having that masculine energy is just an act v how many are, or have truly become, more masculine in their behavior, demeanor, body language, and goals.
The opposite version of the above statement can also be applied to men – a man who insists on acting in a genuine masculine way without wearing the social mask of someone who is overly politically correct or sexually repressed, will earn the attention of a more feminine woman. The guy who is able to lead, make decisions (small or big) not agree with everything a woman says just for the sake of agreeing will earn a feminine woman’s respect and love.
On the other hand, a guy, whose primary goal is to please at any cost, will bore the same woman and will make her run the other way, even if she doesn’t quite understand herself why she is doing it. This is one reason why some of the most feminine women out there are so attracted to men who can challenge and entertain them with their dry sense of humor. After all, often that type of humor indirectly communicates strength, and some degree of disregard for political correctness or eagerness to please at any cost.