Make No Mistake – She Wants to Be Objectified

The term “objectified” generally has a negative connotation, and it’s used by women in reference to men who look at them or who treat them as if they were nothing more than sex objects. However, when the woman likes you, is comfortable around you and is attracted to you, being objectified by you is one of the biggest sexual and emotional turn-ons she can ever experience.

Let’s not forget how much effort women put into being admired by both men and women for how they look. They spend thousands of dollars and hours on make-up, clothes, various body treatments and enhancement to be more attractive and to look younger for as many years as possible. They invest so much time and energy in order to be noticed because it makes them feel so much better about themselves. You may call this superficiality or insecurity, but I consider this to be perfectly natural. Being admired for one’s physical beauty is a basic yet powerful human desire, that’s not foreign to any of us. Being wanted for her looks and body by the guy she likes and wants to attract will bring ten times more emotional and physical satisfaction to her than being wanted by anyone else. So, go ahead  – if you met someone you like and you have a pretty clear idea that she is into you too, stare at her body, point out what you like about her physically. Do it subtly and leave space for imagination. Let her fill in the blank spaces among the words you use. She will love that (unless she is frigid).

Remember not to go overboard. Don’t make those comments in public so that you don’t embarrass her, and don’t flatter her body parts too often so that your compliments don’t lose their impact. But when the time and place are right, and when your comments have the right amount of wit and sexuality in them, go for it. Not being ashamed of what you want and what you like to see is one major sign of fundamental sign of confidence. Remember, admiring her body is a compliment to her, if done tastefully. For instance, when you meet her and she is wearing really tight jeans/skirt, look at her outfit and say with a serious face: “I am not sure about this. It might be a problem.” And she will ask you why. Then you will say: “I will be hurting and limping really badly if I keep looking at you.”

Some uptight women might jump into all kinds of wrong conclusions – “I can’t believe that you only like me for my body”, etc.  You may respond to this with a well-deserved sarcasm:  “Oh, no. I am much more interested in your political views.” Or, if appropriate, you can call her on her unwarranted assumption and say: “First, there is nothing wrong with me liking your body. Secondly, let’s be clear – just because I like your body, doesn’t mean that that’s the only thing I like.”  Ideally, of course, you don’t want to be talking to those kinds of women in the first place, but sometimes it is just a test. She just wants to see whether you are a “beta” or whether you can actually stand your ground with her, as you should.